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Life is Calling! Will You Answer?
Simerpreet Ahuja • Feb 15, 2020

“The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction not a destination.”
—Carl Rogers

The only constant in life is that it is ever changing and evolving. As the new year unfolds, many are struggling to reconcile unfulfilled resolutions, unresolved guilt or feel pressured to make new ones. We start the new year with great focus and hope, directing us toward new dreams and goals to make this year the best one yet. 


It is sometimes difficult to balance achieving our aspirational goals and meeting societal expectations. Some want to improve their career, find a healthy relationship, live their life purposefully, open up a cupcake shop, cliff dive off the Australian coast, or any of the other items off their proverbial “bucket list”. These goals are wonderful but what about the little things? Those small but incredibly special moments of beauty in life, the ones that make us feel connected to ourselves and to others. In our rushed and high-pressure lives we may miss out on those little precious moments that make life more joyful. It’s time to stop and smell the roses when they bloom, if even for a moment.


How do we focus and appreciate the little things so as to bring more joy into our lives?


Here are some tips to consider for a better 2020:


Say YES to Happiness and NO to Despair

Ask yourself, “What makes me happy?” and “What makes me sad?” Awareness is the first step toward welcoming more joy into your life. Remember, we typically have an equal number of positive and negative thoughts each day. Focusing on the positive thoughts and letting go of the negative ones will, undoubtedly, bring more joy and happiness into your life!


Practice Gratitude

There is so much to be thankful for in our lives. We humans are nearing the epitome of excellence in so many things, be it technology, art or medicine. There is so much to celebrate in the bountiful nature like the spring sunshine, exquisite winter snowflakes, the sound of the rain, the chirping birds, etc. Take a deep breath! Indulge in practicing gratitude for all the goodness in your life.


Travel

This year plan and execute a trip to a place you have wanted to go. Make it happen! It could be a short day trip or a visit to a nearby place you’ve never been. Yes, life is busy, and often filled with many professional and personal challenges; however, you can take a break. Go on, you deserve it! 


Self-Care

In the everyday grind, do not forget the most important things of all: self-care and self-love. Self-care is not selfish or something to feel guilty about. It’s loving yourself enough to take good care of yourself; an essential aspect for optimal well-being. Spend some time with yourself. Exercise, eat healthy, sleep well, and relax, without guilt.


Life is about growth and it’s about choices. You always have a choice. Now is the time to choose you. Choose a new direction, a new beginning. You can create your own path. In life destination is important; however, what’s more important is your journey and the adventures which unfold while traveling along the way. 


Did you hear that? Let’s listen; life is calling…with a new purpose, a new thought, a new idea, a new adventure, a new self.


How will you respond?


Written by Simerpreet Ahuja, Clinical Therapist

Reviewed/Edited by Dr. Stacy Lekkos, C. Psych

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No matter how complex or simple it is, when you have a reason to do something, you are more likely to actually follow through with it. Remember to remind yourself why you want to focus on this area of your life. This will be particularly important when the going gets tough or if you fall victim of your previous routine way of functioning. Remember, meaningful change (in this case, sleep) does not happen overnight. Limit Blue Light Exposure Cutting out screen time before bed is one of the most effective ways to improve sleep quality. However, I’m fairly confident that most of you reading this will end the last moments of your night on a screen, whether it's a phone, computer, iPad, or the television. Throughout human evolution, humans evolved to be awake when the sun was up and to fall asleep when the sun went down. The problem with blue light specifically is that it has shown to stimulate the brain in areas that are active during alert day hours, disorienting the body’s natural preparation for sleep. Furthermore, blue light suppresses melatonin production (the hormone that makes you sleepy) and elevates cortisol (the hormone associated with stress ). Mariana Figueiro, PhD., found that two hours of screen time before bed displayed a suppression in melatonin levels in the brain (Figeuiro et. al., 2011). In fact, even when our eyes are closed, we have photo-receptors all over our skin that absorb light just as our retinas in our eyes would. Thus, having screens on anywhere around our sleeping areas is problematic. 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Caffeine Consumption Before getting into what you can do to manage your caffeine consumption, let’s take a simplistic look at what caffeine actually does to the brain that impacts our sleep. During normal functioning hours, the brain slowly accumulates a chemical called adenosine that binds to receptors to slow down brain activity and make you feel tired. The longer you are awake, the more tired you feel. Where caffeine comes into play is that it is shaped very similarly to adenosine and it binds to brain receptors. When these receptors are blocked by caffeine instead of adenosine, this tricks the brain into thinking it's not tired. Caffeine has a half-life of about 6-8 hours. A standard cup of coffee has roughly 150g of caffeine in it. What this means is that after about 6-8 hours there is still about 75g of caffeine in your system. Therefore, the timing of your caffeine consumption is just as important as the quantity. 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This is just the beginning when it comes to ways to improve your sleep, as solutions often depend on one’s specific sleep challenges. However, trying any of these tips can be beneficial as improving our sleep is crucial to improving our physical and psychological well-being. Best of luck on your sleep journey and sweet dreams. Written By: Erik Michalik, M. Psy Candidate, BASc, Edited/Reviewed by : Chantal Legere, M. Psy References Figueiro MG, Wood B, Plitnick B, Rea MS. (2011) The impact of light from computer monitors on melatonin levels in college students. Neuro Endocrinol Lett .; 32(2):158-63. PMID: 21552190. Stevenson, S. (2016). Sleep smarter: 21 essential strategies to sleep your way to a better body, better health, and bigger success . New York, NY: Rodale Books. Photo by Andrea Piacquadio from Pexels
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