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Avoidance versus Distraction: Which One Are You Doing?
Natalie DeRose • Sep 07, 2020

Has anyone ever told you that you are avoiding something? You’re avoiding talking to the waiter! You’re avoiding going outside so you don’t have to see anyone! Have you ever been asked why you get so distracted? Why are you checking your email when I’m talking to you? Why do you go on social media when you’re in the middle of doing an assignment?


Oftentimes the words avoidance and distraction are used interchangeably. However, it’s important to recognize that these are two actions that are fundamentally different and serve different purposes.


Avoidance

Avoidance is the term used to describe when we indefinitely keep away from something that we are not willing to face. Our avoidance is often grounded in discomfort or fear. For example, we may avoid talking to people because it evokes uneasiness that creates a degree of anxiety within us. Because that feeling of uneasiness is unpleasant, we learn to avoid fear-inducing or uncomfortable situations in an effort to avoid the unpleasant feelings associated with these situations. We often unknowingly start this cycle of avoidance in various areas of our lives.


Avoidance often brings great relief which serves a form of escape or reassurance which is very soothing; however it is also an unhealthy and ineffective
coping strategy because it progressively makes the anxiety and avoidance increase. It doesn’t allow us the opportunity to experience the discomfort and work through it so that habituation or desensitization to the fear/anxiety can take place. 


Distraction 

Unlike avoidance, distraction is a healthy coping mechanism. Distraction means that you temporarily step away from a stressful situation and then return to it once your anxiety level has decreased. Distraction gives us the chance to decrease our anxiety and other negative feelings associated with a distressing situation. 


Distraction can look different for everyone. One person may go on a walk, another may call a friend, and another may listen to music or watch a tv show before revisiting their stressor. However, the underlying principle is that distraction is a temporary way to de-escalate one’s distress before returning to the stressful situation in order to navigate it more effectively. 


As you can see, avoidance and distraction are two different behavioral actions that serve different purposes. Avoidance is an unhealthy way to deal with stressors, as it promotes the idea of staying away from stressful situations with no intention of ever facing them. On the other hand, distractions act as short term strategies that allow us to take a step back from an overwhelming situation, reduce our anxiety level, and re-engage with the stressor in a more effective manner. 


Written By: Natalie DeRose, M. Psy., B.A. (Hons)

Edited/Reviewed by: Dr. Stacy Lekkos, C. Psych


References


Grifith, M. (2020, February 18). Distraction vs. Avoidance: How to Cope with Distress. In Healthy Place. Retrieved from https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/recoveringfrommentalillness/2020/2/distraction-vs-avoidance-how-to-cope-with-distress


Hooper, A. (2019 , November 8). Distraction Versus Avoidance – What is the difference?. In 
Gaithersburg Counselling Center. Retrieved from https://healingllc.com/2019/11/distraction-versus-avoidance-what-is-the-difference/

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